I love that song from Johnny Gaddar. It goes something like this:
heyy johnny, zindagi juwa hai khel yaar
heyy johnny gaddar, aaj nakad phir kal udhaar
heyy johnny, matlab hi hai asli yaar
There were three instances I came across recently. Two of them being my own experiences and one of them regarding an on going murder case.
Both my experiences were very similar and they occurred at different times last week. I have this friend who often asks for my help on both academic and non academic stuff. I, quite humbly, try my best to help him/her out. I have done this umpteen times back in India and also after coming to the US. But whenever I ping him/her just for a casual chat and catch up on old times, he/she is always busy! Either there’ll be no reply or it’ll be cut off. I never gave a damn. I still continued doing the small things that were asked of me. It was never a big deal and I don’t know why I don’t feel used. The other instance was similar and this one was with a friend who I have not been in touch with for a long time(1-1.5 yrs). Very rarely I would ping and hear a reply. Even if there was a reply, the chat wouldn’t continue beyond two or three lines. And guess what, suddenly, this person pings, asks how I am, what’s new and spoke a bit about old times. Then came the bummer! He/she wanted to know the price of some product available here(in US) and wanted details about it. Neat!
I’ve seen this book on my mom’s shelf titled “Don’t say Yes when you want to say No”. I probably should have picked it up and read it. But the problem is, I don’t want to say no. It’s not that I don’t know. When I dislike someone or really feel bad about them(more often than not, they turn out to be girls!) I give it back to them when I can. I’ve been rude that way. But with people who I like or do not dislike, I am as nice as ever. I don’t feel any emotion, loss or pain in this. It plainly doesn’t make any sense to me.
The other news that troubled me was the Aarushi murder case and it’s handling. Neha wrote this post on the SMSs she saw on NDTV in reaction to the murder and the case that followed. I read that article and made a comment on the media which was a bit out of sync with the point she was trying to make. The article was about the kind of SMSs and not the media. Anyhow, the media has covered the case in a big way and cashed in on all the controversial and sleazy details the police took the issue to. Now, I read this! They plan to depict the incident in one of the serials of Balaji Telefilms! Why don’t they get a life? Bang in the middle of the case, when the family is going through a lot of emotional roller coaster, these people want to up their TRP ratings. Even cashing in on such negative publicity is so unethical. I am not sure what drives people such ways.
Putting all that aside, life is good a la Preeti, a la Ok. For the first time after coming to America, starting a grad student life, I have a proper routine in place. Weekends are good, harmless fun. Weekdays, I come back from work and then go for a 2.75 mile hike around the lake with my roommate. We plan to gradually up the length and tempo. We come back, shower and cook good food! Yeah, sometimes we slack and end up with Maggi, but most of the time, we manage to eat well. Today we were cooking with Bombay Jayashree going Kanden Seethaiyai and Janaki Ramana in the background. I liked the atmosphere. Very nice! The only thing missing is a girl. All in good time! :D